Since my husband and his ex split the kids, things can get kind of confusing. The boys didn't really get a chance to bond since she took the younger one when he was barely 1, and Alan was only 2. He was a little younger than Michael is right now when they seperated Alan and John. That's hard for me to think about. Michael is very attached to his sister and to me... I just can't imagine taking Bailey and walking away from him... but I'm a different person than she is. Anyways... we've tried really hard to keep the boys in touch with each other, but honestly I don't see the point right now. Alan is only 6 and John is 5.. neither of them really know what is going on and Alan rarely even mentions John.. and when he or the ex are brought up, he withdraws and doesn't want to talk about them. But, I certainly want them to be able to become friends as they get older so hopefully keeping them in touch now will give them a base to start off with.
For Easter coming up, I got a wild hair and decided to send John and his sister some things. I had Michael and Alan pick some things to send that I knew they'd enjoy, threw in some candy, and got them an Easter egg dye kit. I doubt she'll just it, but I don't really care if she does or not... that wasn't the point. We got John some Cars items, and his sister some Zoe (from Sesame Street) things like stick on earrings and a little backpack and some hair clips... and then fingerpaints... I didn't realize until we got home with the finger paint that it wasn't washable (it was Disney, so I just assumed it would be!!!).. oops.. Well, she can decide if she wants them to have it or not... hehe.
I really enjoy sending stuff to the kids. It's fun for me... for many reasons. I love buying stuff for other people. We don't have a lot of money, but I like to share what we do have and John IS hubby's bio son.. Then my little bonus is I get a giggle at the idea of how her head must explode every time seeing that I wrote the note and wrote the address and my name is on the customs form.. and she has been saying she had a package for Alan that she was going to send him for 2 months.. hmmm.. yeh, still not here.. good thing Alan didn't understand it and wasn't looking forward to it or anything. Yeh, so it's a bit naughty of me to rub it in that we go further for the kids, but whatever. She could just as well put forth some effort. Again she has stopped emailing Alan and didn't respond to his last email. That just shows where she really is with him...
Oh, but it's fun it imagine her being annoyed by me being nice. Ahhhh... I hope the kids like their presents. I put a note in for John and asked that he email Alan about what they do for Easter where he lives and that maybe he and his Mummy can dye the Easter eggs with his sister like we do here. Okay, both naughty and nice of me. What can I say? It makes me feel better.