My mother in law is a peach. Somehow everything that hubby or anyone else does that she does not approve of is my fault. It's truely amazing the kind of power that I possess. I can control my husband's every though and action.. and Alan not asking about them is my fault too because I must have brainwashed him. Oh, and all of Alan's improvements since they have been out of our lives (the out-laws, I mean) are just because he is scared of me I'll bet! Couldn't be that he has a loving, stable home with 2 parents, a brother, a sister, a bunch of pets, and a lot of structure. Nope, it's all because I'm mean and abusive.. and controlling. I forgot that one.
Oh, did I tell you guys about how I abused my stepson when he was 3? Yeh, I didn't know either, but apparently giving a shower to kid that has poo running down his legs to get it off without him sitting in a poo filled bathtub is abusive if he doesn't like it. Quick! Someone call CPS! I gave Michael a shower for the same thing and then again b/c he had mascara all over him and I wanted to just get it all off real fast! I'm out of control!!! My poor kids are *gasp* CLEAN!!! Oh the humanity!!!
But back to my all powerfulness... Apparently I have the power to control everything my husband does and I was behind him cutting off contact with his parents. Actually, the truth is quite different. I did tell hubby that I was done with them, but his relationship with them was completely up to him. Well, he kinda left it up to them by way of their actions.. and I think them accusing me of abuse was the last straw for him. My mother in law called me the other day to arrange a sit down with me. JUST me. Yeh right. This all powerful one sees the future and I can see clear as day that this is a bad idea. I'm not the one that cut off contact, so I'm not the one that is going to be responsible for restarting it. I just didn't call back and told hubby about it. The next day she called hubby to tattle apparently that I didn't call her back.. HAHAHA I bet she'll call my mommy next. Don't laugh at that.. she's really done that before. I guess my mom is more all powerful than I am. Blast! I wanted to be the most all powerful!
Thursday, March 13, 2008
Friday, March 7, 2008
Naughty or nice?
Since my husband and his ex split the kids, things can get kind of confusing. The boys didn't really get a chance to bond since she took the younger one when he was barely 1, and Alan was only 2. He was a little younger than Michael is right now when they seperated Alan and John. That's hard for me to think about. Michael is very attached to his sister and to me... I just can't imagine taking Bailey and walking away from him... but I'm a different person than she is. Anyways... we've tried really hard to keep the boys in touch with each other, but honestly I don't see the point right now. Alan is only 6 and John is 5.. neither of them really know what is going on and Alan rarely even mentions John.. and when he or the ex are brought up, he withdraws and doesn't want to talk about them. But, I certainly want them to be able to become friends as they get older so hopefully keeping them in touch now will give them a base to start off with.
For Easter coming up, I got a wild hair and decided to send John and his sister some things. I had Michael and Alan pick some things to send that I knew they'd enjoy, threw in some candy, and got them an Easter egg dye kit. I doubt she'll just it, but I don't really care if she does or not... that wasn't the point. We got John some Cars items, and his sister some Zoe (from Sesame Street) things like stick on earrings and a little backpack and some hair clips... and then fingerpaints... I didn't realize until we got home with the finger paint that it wasn't washable (it was Disney, so I just assumed it would be!!!).. oops.. Well, she can decide if she wants them to have it or not... hehe.
I really enjoy sending stuff to the kids. It's fun for me... for many reasons. I love buying stuff for other people. We don't have a lot of money, but I like to share what we do have and John IS hubby's bio son.. Then my little bonus is I get a giggle at the idea of how her head must explode every time seeing that I wrote the note and wrote the address and my name is on the customs form.. and she has been saying she had a package for Alan that she was going to send him for 2 months.. hmmm.. yeh, still not here.. good thing Alan didn't understand it and wasn't looking forward to it or anything. Yeh, so it's a bit naughty of me to rub it in that we go further for the kids, but whatever. She could just as well put forth some effort. Again she has stopped emailing Alan and didn't respond to his last email. That just shows where she really is with him...
Oh, but it's fun it imagine her being annoyed by me being nice. Ahhhh... I hope the kids like their presents. I put a note in for John and asked that he email Alan about what they do for Easter where he lives and that maybe he and his Mummy can dye the Easter eggs with his sister like we do here. Okay, both naughty and nice of me. What can I say? It makes me feel better.
For Easter coming up, I got a wild hair and decided to send John and his sister some things. I had Michael and Alan pick some things to send that I knew they'd enjoy, threw in some candy, and got them an Easter egg dye kit. I doubt she'll just it, but I don't really care if she does or not... that wasn't the point. We got John some Cars items, and his sister some Zoe (from Sesame Street) things like stick on earrings and a little backpack and some hair clips... and then fingerpaints... I didn't realize until we got home with the finger paint that it wasn't washable (it was Disney, so I just assumed it would be!!!).. oops.. Well, she can decide if she wants them to have it or not... hehe.
I really enjoy sending stuff to the kids. It's fun for me... for many reasons. I love buying stuff for other people. We don't have a lot of money, but I like to share what we do have and John IS hubby's bio son.. Then my little bonus is I get a giggle at the idea of how her head must explode every time seeing that I wrote the note and wrote the address and my name is on the customs form.. and she has been saying she had a package for Alan that she was going to send him for 2 months.. hmmm.. yeh, still not here.. good thing Alan didn't understand it and wasn't looking forward to it or anything. Yeh, so it's a bit naughty of me to rub it in that we go further for the kids, but whatever. She could just as well put forth some effort. Again she has stopped emailing Alan and didn't respond to his last email. That just shows where she really is with him...
Oh, but it's fun it imagine her being annoyed by me being nice. Ahhhh... I hope the kids like their presents. I put a note in for John and asked that he email Alan about what they do for Easter where he lives and that maybe he and his Mummy can dye the Easter eggs with his sister like we do here. Okay, both naughty and nice of me. What can I say? It makes me feel better.
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